An analysis of the difference of men and women in men are from mars women are from venus by john gra
Gray further asserts men and women view giving and receiving love differently, how individual actions intended as loving expressions are "tallied up.
Unfortunately this then causes the other partner to do the same, and the relationship unravels inexorably. Popularity[ edit ] The book has sold more than 15 million copies   and, according to a CNN report, it was the "highest ranked work of non-fiction" of the s.
When women become unduly stressed, their natural reaction is to talk with someone close about it even if talking doesn't provide a solution to the problem at hand.
But if we stick tight through the ups and downs of life and each other, then our initial bliss gradually changes into a mature form of love which can become stronger and fuller with every passing year.
Summary[ edit ] Gray writes how men and women each monitor the amount of give and take in relationships. Chapter 2: Mr Fix-It and the Home Improvement Committee Men love to have their abilities recognised and appreciated, and hate to have them scorned or ignored; women love to have their feelings recognised and appreciated, and hate to have them scorned or ignored.
Women should resist the temptation to try to drag their partners back prematurely or criticise them over this natural behaviour. A woman may consider a bunch of flowers to be just as good a proof of love as an entire month of hard work towards paying the bills.
Men may use anger, ego, or oblivion such as burying themselves in their work to avoid vulnerable feelings of pain or fear; women may lapse into depression or confusion to avoid having aggressive feelings of anger.
Men are from mars women are from venus quotes
Then, a woman needs the attention, listening, understanding, and reassurance of those around her—as well as self-love. When she gives of herself, but doesn't receive adequate love and attention in return, her wave becomes unbalanced, cresting and eventually crashing. Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus Men, advises Gray, should support this natural cycle by not being threatened by it or telling her why she should not feel the way a woman feels. The slowness in which they sink into depression and subsequently recover may be hard for men to handle. Men like to demonstrate their abilities by being allowed to solve problems without interference; women like to demonstrate their feelings by being allowed to relate problems without interference. Instead, the woman would rather have many little things done for her on a regular basis, because women like to think their men are thinking of them and care for them more constantly. At these times they may become utterly unapproachable, demanding the right to be left on their own and to be allowed not to express their feelings, but if given support by being afforded space for a little while, they will soon feel better and spring back into their usual loving selves once again. Gray clarifies how these two perceptions of "strokes" cause conflict. It is important to communicate such feelings in a loving atmosphere because we may need to feel securely loved while communicating such intimate and revealing feelings, and our partners may need the same if some of those feelings will be painful to hear, or could be taken personally. Men like to sort their thoughts out before communicating them, and have the tendency to become distant and non-communicative as they ponder their concerns. Men, on the other hand, assign small acts, small expenditures, fewer points.
This is a time when only communication can help to bring the relationship back into balance.
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